Tuesday, May 26, 2009

sayang sayang

My paternal grandma, 82, passed away on the 14th this month. My mum called me and I managed to talk to Ah Po, telling her I miss her and I heard from mum, after that my cousin, her favourite grandchild arrived to see her and only then she left.

I dreamt of Ah Po that night. I knew then I had to return to Singapore to send her off. So Brian, Kaeden and myself took the next available flight on Sunday back. When the cortege was scheduled on Monday, it was raining. Was that a sign that Ah Po didn't bear to leave?

This trip whenever I meet my parents, I took a mental note to be gentler to them. After all, both lost their mothers in just a few months apart. It was from a TV advertisement of a seafood restaurant promoting a Parents' Day special deal, did I learn that there's such a thing as Parents' Day. This year, on the 30th May. Why do I take notice of such a thing only when I become a parent?

From the newspaper a few days ago, I read of someone leaving his job in order to focus fully on a campaign, Holding Hands, for loving and paying attention to one's parents.

Saturday, May 09, 2009

Life's longing for itself

(Kaeden's first swim this morning.)

The Prophet

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
and though they are with you, and yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love, but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward, not tarries with yesterday.

- Kahlil Gibran

Thursday, May 07, 2009

warm the new house :: Sarah's apron set

Another gift for a new home. Sarah and Desmond, my friends have moved into their new place, I heard. The couple, especially Desmond loves to cook. They had cooked for me once. So I ordered 2 vintage apron panels off an etsy seller (one I intended to keep for myself) and made an apron set from it for my dear girlfriend.

When I was sewing the apron, I thought of Sarah at the same time. I miss her. I miss my friends. Sometimes I wonder if I'm making a mistake by coming over to Palembang. Often a times, I feel like I'm losing my friends. It's a rare luxury to keep in touch with friends and share the minute details of our lives. Despite our distance, Sarah is one friend I'm always sure I can easily connect with again whenever we meet. She's a treasure.

Unlike my other craftwork, I took my time with the apron. Because the fabric is rather thin, I didn't follow the directions accordingly. I added pink cotton for the body and omitted the flounce part. Using the printed lady modelling the apron part from the cloth panel, it became a pot holder above by me sewing polyester batting and denim to it.

Friday, May 01, 2009

photo collage :: the 1st year

I remember when Kaeden was in his middle of his first year and I was looking through the photos we had taken of him earlier, I was amazed at how much physical changes he had made. I also felt a deep sense of pride and joy.

After his first birthday, I selected some photos which we had taken through the year and which I love and got them developed. Now they're in a frame. I plan to have one frame made like this for Kaeden every year.